/The Beginner Exhibitionist's Kit
Things to Own
Want to flash a little skin, but feeling shy?
The internet has made it much easier for us to become exhibitionists. Chat, webcams, personal blogs, video-sharing all offer mediums of expression to both friends and strangers. But technology can’t replace the rush of live experience.
We’ve put together a few things for the hesitant exhibitionist, and we’ll begin with a good camera.
Polaroid pioneered the technology of instant gratification, but when it announced that it was moving on from its instant-film cameras, Fuji’s Instax stepped in to fill the void. The Instax offers both automatic flash and low-light options, super-fine grain, an LCD control panel, and selectable shooting options. As with the old Polaroid cameras, the film isn’t cheap at about $1 per photo, but the quality is great. And instant photos have an inherently dirty/sexy feel.
(Photo: Noah Kalina)
And the Instax is the nervous exhibitionist’s dream. Unlike digital images, which have the nasty tendency to spread across the net like a virus, instant photos are one-time hard copies. You can have the exhibitionist rush of seeing yourself on film - an instant keepsake - without the risk of finding that photo on Facebook. Unless you're an enthusiastic scanner.
Like to tease? Swan Clothing makes some interesting, traditional garters. Unlike garter belts, these thigh-high garters strap around the thighs individually. Wear a short skirt and you’ll reveal a bit of stocking, maybe more. And unlike traditional garter belts, you aren’t strapped into a complicated network of straps and clasps when the time comes to remove your undersomethings.
We're generally wary of pre-packaged sex games, but when they come from Susie Bright, we take them seriously. I Dare You comes in a beautiful red box, packed with thirty prompts and dares. Invite a partner over and draw a card. If there’s ice that needs breaking, this will do it. Be sure to snap a few incriminating photos. (And then send them to us....)
The Bnaughty Unleashed has a high-tech potential for public play. Once the vibrator is inserted, your partner holds the reins with the wireless remote control. Wear it out, to dinner, on the subway, during a movie, and see what happens.
(Photo: The Mofo)
If you’re extra-private, you can feel like an exhibitionist without leaving your home by placing a large mirror across from your bed. Of course, in this case, any mirror will do. Go big.
When you’re ready for a sex party, pick up a mask. Many request them, some require them. Pamela Quevedo makes lovely handmade masks, and this beautiful number conforms to the face.
And while we’re on the subject of sex parties, consider a frame bra. It doesn't offer much for support, but it does offer a beautiful frame for your breasts. This one, from France, is made of latex for a sleek, sharp line. You can find others at Coco de Mer.
The ultimate classic film for the voyeur/exhibitionist is Behind the Green Door (1972), with the amazing Marilyn Chambers, one-time Ivory Snow girl. Chambers is kidnapped and brought on-stage at an underground sex club where she is gradually led through a sexual awakening. Also: trapeze sex.
Lighting is important. Candles offer a flattering light, but for something different, consider the Bed Head by THISgallery, made of recycled bottles and aluminum. A sustainable alternative to a Chihuly.
And if you’d just like to get into the mood, or simply fantasize about flashing a little skin, read Peep Show, a collection of erotic stories edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel.