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/All Women Love Sex

The Universal Insatiability of Women

Growing up with a voracious sex drive, and very much aware of it, I was always irked at the notion that somehow men were designed to 'spread seed' and women to 'tend the fruit borne of said seed.' It felt very short-sighted, clearly based in a socio-political agenda that was compensatory, and intuitively dead wrong. I made it my personal mission to prove otherwise. I seduced; I conquered. Most of my pursuits were fueled by natural desire and sometimes, particularly when I met a man who bragged openly about his prowess, I wanted to one-up.

For my own purposes, I found that sex without depth was boring, but my ability to manage many men was never a problem. I knew that as a female, I certainly had the capacity.
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A woman is more likely to pursue a sexual liaison outside of her primary relationship when she is ovulating.
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When I was told about the book Sperm Wars, written by English biologist Dr. Robin Baker, I was finally vindicated by science. Baker's specialty is human sexuality and he has compiled the highlights of his work in the book. His most gratifying discovery?

Women like to fuck.

A lot.

The great sexological coup that finally turns the 'spread the seed' fantasy on its head lies in the primordial soup of the male ejaculate. (Not surprising, being as it is one of my favorite elixirs). It turns out that not all sperm are created equal. Most of them -  over 99% actually - have another purpose to their short lives other than to fertilize an egg.

They exist to kill sperm. The sperm of other men.

These kamikaze sperm hunt and kill the competitors they fully expect to find swimming around in the uterus. They are fighting their own microcosmic battle to be fitter, stronger and create superior progeny. This very fact entirely shuts down the argument that women aren't promiscuous by nature. By nature, they very much are.

By nurture, they are encouraged not to be. Women who believe they don't love sex have been programmed to silence their biology. Perhaps they have shut down from the cultural messages they've received or by violence done to their sexual expression. In any case, they have squashed their own innate love of sex.
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A deeper question that is raised to me is how some of us survive this onslaught? What makes us different? But I digress. Back to Baker.

Further supporting the survival of the fittest sperm idea is Baker's findings that a woman is more likely to pursue a sexual liaison outside of her primary relationship when she is ovulating. Her genes push her to create an environment that will weed out the weak and capture the strong.

Whenever I hear someone (typically a male someone) espouse his highly original idea that men are somehow just the randier sex, I explain this theory to them and it tends to stop them cold. I can only guess that they start pondering the veracity of their own lineage.

On a logistical level, the other factor that bolsters the endurance of women is found in male vs. female refractory periods. Women don't have any. Only the very rare man I've met, and this is supported by statistics (I love when science backs me up), can regenerate without significant rest. What I've personally seen is that the healthier the male and the more sexually aware and in touch he is, the refractory period is much less. (And, well, I'd turf anyone who wasn't duly capable in a few minutes). On average though, I believe it can be a long time (an hour? several hours?) coming.

There you have it: all women are designed for promiscuity and sexual endurance.  In the same way that women need to work to overcome their societal conditioning and reclaim their sexual selves, men need to work to overcome their physiological handicaps and develop more sexual stamina. 
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